Treat teething with green onions

Treat teething with green onions - 
When your infant is teething give them green onions to chew on.
 Give the just the dark green end. It has an ingredient that naturally numbs the gums.Something in the green onion has a natural medicinal effect as well as the coldness of the onion. Baby valentina don't mind the taste or smell and has helped a lot. 


I HAD TRIED 3 WAYS.
1.grill or cook in sauce pan. until onion gets Little black. peel the first layers until you get to the very white part (thin and not easy to peel) it will look really thin. then rub on babies gum.


2.Put a scallion onion in the freezer for about 15 to 30 minuets. (not completely frozen, but real cold.) Then rub on babies gums.

(family remedy)

Baby's Bath

The very first baby's bath it wasn't easy for me. I was nervous and trying to get it done fast,which is one of the big mistakes.

A bath has to be warm,relaxing and fun.

I bathe my baby girl every other day, when the weather too cold, i do it every 3 days.

I use MUSTELA products, just because valentina has such sensitive skin and mustela has no perfume or alcohol (any kind of soap will make our babies skin dry),but the less perfume or alcohol, the better!! (pediatrician recommendation).

1. Get everything ready (towel,clean cloths,diaper,shampoo,soap...) I try to make sure i have everything i need for bath and dressing, so i wont need to get things in the middle of bath.
2. I always kind of clean the baby's tub BEFORE i fill it up with water.
3. once i start the filling process, I check water temperatures (with a water thermometer or by touching the water, it is easy to tell)
4. I like to undress my baby right next to tub, so she will get in the water right away.(to prevent her for getting to cold)
5. I Always try to hold her head. I do the soap part. FROM TOP TO BOTTOM. i do head, face and than body.
6. I take her out right away and take her to the changing station (space where you placed clean cloths,diaper,lotion...). i started with body lotion all over her body to prevent sking to getting too dry,than diaper,socks and cloths. 

BABY MASSAGE (magical smothing remedy)

It has been one of my favorite smothing remedies.
Valentina loves massage.


It helps on sleeping,colic,cold and cough. (it works on my baby).

1.  a blanket or towel
2.  massage oil  (Test the oil on a small spot of your baby's skin and wait a day to be sure no irritation appears.) 
3. Start when your baby is  quiet  -- not immediately after a feeding or when she's sleepy. 
4. Sit on the floor  or bed with  your feet together, forming a diamond shape with your legs. Drape the blanket over your feet and between your knee.
5. Undress your baby down to her diaper and place her on the blanket, cradling her head on your feet. 
6. Start with a gentle "hello" stroke from baby's head to her toes. 
7. If your baby stiffens, cries, or becomes irritable, move to another body part or simply end the massage for the day. If she responds well, start gently massaging her body,singing or play music. My baby loves massage.

 Have fun!

 I USE:

Im sure any brand or kind of massage oil will work.

AS MOTHERS WE NEED MOTIVATION EVERYDAY.

It can be hard to feel completetly calm and relaxed as a mother, but it is possible to at least find or see the positive side of things. EVERYTHING has a positive little thing, I PROMISE. we just have to learn how to find it.

1. Let the people you love and who mean the world to you be your inspiration to persist and persevere.
2. Don't over-expect. Real life is not Little House on the Prairie.  People generally don't stand around the table singing carols, spew lovely little speeches.  If my family behaved this way I'd think someone had spiked their drink. Accept and love your family just the way it is.  Yes, they're quirky.  Sure, they leave their socks all over the place.  No, they don't say "Thank you" nearly often enough - but they're your's and you love them, quirks and all.  
3. remembering the important people of your life and think about one of the times they made you laugh out loud.  In no time at all, you'll be laughing out loud again :)

 4. Give it a little more color to your life and house. reorganizing or re decorating your house can be a nice thing to do. Get happy colors around you. (red,green,yellow),even a little thing can make a big difference.

Im sure the less you need is to hear someones issues about how bad their life is (there is many people that loves complaining about life) , but i will like to tell you what i had been trying for the last few Months.

*watch nice,positive,comedy,romantic or happy ending  movies

*home videos are always fun

*Take a ride around town with the radio blaring.  Sing out loud to each and every song. (IT WORKS :))

*Volunteer,join playdates,mom's groups,meet ups.

*look for fun events around your neighborhood.

*a makeover. new haircut,dress up more often, pedicure, or do your nails, anything that can make you feel better.

* Buy and wrap hand made,new,or used toysfor the different Toys for Children programs in your area. Find the prettiest, brightest Christmas paper (or bags) you can find and let the joy that they'll bring to underprivileged children fill your heart and soul.  Think about their little faces lighting up .

* A coffee day with other mothers.

*spa day (at home, with home-made skin and body treatments)

* fix your hair,fiz your eyebrows, wax ,get some make up and nice cloths on. you will feel and look a lot better. 

* a makeover :) its always fun, changes are good and I'm sure your partner will appreciated it too.

All these had saved my life emotionally at certain point.

I hope I helped to make you feel better :):):) 

 Enjoy of your family and remember is never too late for giving,receiving,loving and forgiving.

Helping your partner to understand How do you feel. (baby blues/post partum depression)

men need help to understand how a women feel about life. sometimes we get so upset becouse we think taht they just dont understand or ignore what are we going trough. BUT

HAD YOU THOUGHT.... that he might need some help to  LEARN to understand how do you feel???

TALKING: It is the best way of communication.  finding the right place and moment of the day to do it, can be a lot better.

explaining how do you feel, might help you and him also.

DONT OVER EXPECT: we can expect men to GUESS what a re we thinking or feeling, we have to tell them or let them know somehow.
sometimes its hard to talk, but maybe a note,letter or email. ANYTHING!! will be better than just not communicating.

GET HIM INVOLVED IN YOUR RECOVERY. Let him be part of it. ask him to go to a counseling or at least tell him how did your doctor's appointments or counseling went. LET HIM KNOW.

STAYING TOGETHER. this can be an aportunity to get CLOSER to each other.
someone has to give the first step or say the first word, even when we know for sure that our partner it is just not helping or even trying to make things better. It can be a good idea to let him know that we are aware that this is not easy for him either,but as a team or partner. YOU CAN GET OUT OF THIS TOGETHER.

if he is just NOT GETTING IT at all. you can ask for help from friends,a doctor, counseling.
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH ASKING FOR HELP.
There is a reson why specialist,counselors and doctors are there for us. we are their clients and they sure know what to do and how to do it. :)

Baby Blues

It doesnt mean that you are bad,that is your fault or that you are not being a good mom.

It is hard, But not impossible. you and your baby dont have to suffer.

• Rest as much as you can. Sleep when the baby is sleeping.
• create a schedule,routine and set PRIORITIES.things that must be done versus things that can wait.
• Don't try to do too much or try to be perfect.
• Ask your partner, family, and friends for help.
• Make time to go out, visit friends, or spend time alone with your partner.
• Discuss your feelings with your partner, family, and friends.
• Talk with other mothers so you can learn from their experiences.GET TOGETHER
• Join a support group. LOOK for mom's groups in your area.
• Don't make any major life changes during pregnancy or right after giving birth. Major changes can cause unneeded stress. Sometimes big changes can't be avoided. When that happens, try to arrange support and help in your new situation ahead of time.

Baby Sleep Routine

BABY'S BEDTIME ROUTINE

The bedtime routine is equally important, but a lot more flexible. Just try to make it peaceful and predictable. Rocking, caressing, singing, playing soft music, turn lights and noise down,bby massage, are just a few of the many effective ways to signal that the day is over. However, don't nurse or bottle-feed your infant to sleep; it will prevent her from developing the ability to soothe herself if she wakes up during the night. Instead, get your child settled in your arms, then let her drift off by herself in the crib. 

EARLY EVENING BATH:
is a soothing way to prepare your baby for bed. While she doesn't really need to be washed more than twice a week, it's beneficial to make tub time part of your daily routine, says Dr. Muething. Just make sure you use soap sparingly and rinse immediately to avoid drying out your infant's tender skin. Though most infants love the warm water and Mommy's loving touch, some are scared of baths. If your child has water phobia, ease his fear by saving special toys for the tub and playing fun games (such as "this little piggy") as soon as his toes get wet. Make the après-bath experience more pleasant by cradling your child in a towel or giving him a massage. Get your spouse involved too.

ADD A DAILY WALK TO YOUR BABY'S ROUTINE:
The fresh air and stimulation is good for your baby–and safe for a newborn, as long as she's dressed appropriately and shielded from the sun.


HUNGER CLUES

Having trouble getting your baby/child to eat at the right times? 
Creating a comfortable environment may solve the problem. Look for a quiet, dimly lit spot, and breast-or bottle-feed in the same chair or rocker every time. "If you're consistent, your baby will pick up on the cues and be less likely to fuss.
Feedings go a lot better when I can minimize the noise and commotion around us," says Scariano.

They'll also go more smoothly if you feed your baby at regular intervals (usually spaced by at least 21/2 hours), so she starts to sense when its time to eat. If your child starts crying an hour after a full meal, avoid using your breast or a bottle to soothe her. Eventually she'll learn to trust that when she's hungry, she'll get fed. Once your baby is on solids (at around 4 to 6 months), you can set up new rituals to trigger the food connection.

SUGGESTIONS:

have dance,brunch parties with other moms and their childs
playdates
play instruments,music always helps.
blow bubbles
scoop toys out of water
climb on things
go for walks
read books
go to the library
go to a parenting place/support group center/community center
go swimming at the rec center
go to classes (baby sign language, baby early development school,toddler dancing,soccer or music)
hang out in parks
go hiking, go play at outdoor centers around town
play outside
seek out other mom and dad friends
go to the gym

valentinas bath toys

My Wedding

How to plan a party

• Choose where you’d like the party to be
• Pick a Theme
• Choose when the party will be
• Decide on a party budget 
• Make a list of those you wish to invite
• Purchase Invitations (or make your own!)
• Choose what kind of food you will offer
• Decide on decor, music or ambiance of the party
• Decide on entertainment and games
• Address Guest Safety
• Enjoy

Checklist for party planning

• Determine the basics for the party – theme, location, timeline and decor and food
• Determine a budget
• Make a guest list
• Send invites
• Double check all your orders and RSVP’s
• Have fun